Parenthood

In simple words, parenting refers to child rearing. It is a continuous process of promoting a child’s physical and emotional development from infancy to adulthood. We, the parents are privileged that this bundle of joy has come to our house- we are honored. They are not our property. We just need to nurture them and let them enjoy their childhood. Only then will the child enjoy his/her childhood and we, the parents will feel proud of it to be parents. By loving them for more than their abilities, we show our children that they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments. Sometimes, parents have a wrong notion that loving their kids’ means to give them whatever they ask for. However, do you really think that this is a correct or good practice to be followed? If this practice is followed, the demand of these children would increase day by day and it may not be possible for you to cope up with their increasing needs. At such point, the kids tend to become aggressive and adamant and often indulge in unfair practices to meet their own demands, which are not welcomed in our society.

Successful parenting is when you spend quality time with your children, not the quantitative time. The term “quality”, means giving the full attention to your child. There are many parents who indulge in social networking sites, or mobile phones when their kids expect their parents to play or listen to them. The kids just do not need only our physical presence… they want both our physical and mental presence when we are with them. Never tell your child that he/she is bad. That breaks their self-esteem. These words break them mentally and they just cannot tolerate. Try to make them understand that “you are not bad but what you have done is bad”. In order to build a child’s healthy self-esteem, he/she must know that their parents love them unconditionally and only some of their wrong doings are not welcomed.

Many parents want to impose their dream onto their children what they could not achieve in their lives. Parents should not sit on a pedestal and tell the child what he/she should do. Instead, place yourself below them so that it is easy for them to talk with you. In simple words, be a child’s friend instead of being a guardian and only then the child will communicate to you his/her every problem, emotion and dream. Then only, you will be able to guide your child in the right direction. Last but not the least is that if you are really interested for a good upbringing of your child, you should transform yourself into a good human. If you are jovial and nice person, you will be your child’s friend, philosopher and guide.